Navigating the dating game | with Ainsley Britain

Aug 22, 2022

Don't date a booboo dude | Summer Inspirations with publisher David D Cook

Stephanie welcomes Ainsley Britain to discuss teen and college dating in this first episode of our "Summer Inspirations with publisher David C Cook." This conversation welcomes anyone who plays an active role in the life of a teen or college girl--parents, mentors, friends, youth group leaders! Many young women enter or stay in relationships out of fear of being alone, shame, or insecurity which may cause them to lower their standards or expectations. What they find are men they normally would never have tolerated. Men they would have told their friends to avoid. What they find are BooBoo Dudes. While the term BooBoo Dude might be light-hearted, the concept behind them and the damage they cause women is serious. This term describes a man who portrays narcissistic and abusive behavior, which leads to confusion, shame, and eventual isolation.

In her book, Ainsley describes red flags and also green flags - what to identify as harmful behavior, and what to look for in a healthy dating relationship. She explains to her teen and college-aged readers that they are worth fighting for--she connects them to Jesus in authentic, deep ways and challenges them to work through their pain towards wholesome healing. She and Stephanie also discuss the lies that these dear girls believe, and how being deeply rooted in our identity in Christ is the key to fulfilled living. Finally, Ainsley invites her audience to lend a hand and help someone else through their pain. She paints a stunning picture of grace and the purpose and power of a Christ-sized vision for her girls. She describes what dating can be, and gives advice to mentors of all ages!

Before Ainsley ends the conversation by praying a beautiful blessing over you as you listen, she ends with practical tips to mentor teens and young adults:

- establish the rules: trust is key!

- ask the question WHY

- be open to flexible conversations!

- know the resources available to you

- sometimes, go to the professionals!

- warn them that you will disappoint them, and remind them that anything good is not from you as the leader, but from the Lord!


Related through Ainsley’s humorous and vulnerable personal experiences, in the book you’ll learn about:

- the often-unbelievable behaviors of BooBoo Dudes

- how to exit a futureless relationship with higher standards

- keeping or restoring your identity through Jesus

- and reaching others trapped with BooBoo Dudes

With wisdom rooted in the gospel, Ainsley tenderly brings the reader along her own journey toward confidence found only in Jesus. She embraced her identity and left BooBoo Dudes behind. Every woman can do the same.



Ainsley Britain has helped thousands of young adults embrace their confidence, date healthy, and discover their identity in Christ through her written words, podcast, and speaking engagements. Through extensive training from Belmont University, She Speaks Studio, Youth Speaker University, Compel Training, and more, she has advanced her God-given mission to help young adults all over the country. She is an Enneagram Coach through and is as real as one can get when it comes to talking about hard topics and fighting for oneself. Ainsley and her husband travel often and currently live in her home state of Louisiana.

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